Category Archives: Childbirth

Support a Doula, Get a Cool Shirt!

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Check out this awesome shirt design made by Princess Daddy to support me on my journey to become a childbirth educator and doula. Order your shirt today and share the idea with your friends. This design will only be available until April 15th so act now!

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Writer Road Trip: 50 Shades of Mommy Wars

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Writer Road TripThis month has been a very trying month for me. First, all the sudden there is an uproar about moms wearing yoga pants, then there was a measles outbreak at Disneyland and the whole country went crazy and finally, the movie “50 Shades of Grey” came out in theaters and people POUNCED. I try really hard to remain neutral because I’m a blogger and I often have to represent both sides in my social media freelance work but when posts get completely overwhelming like they have been, I take a different approach: I leave social media altogether. No one in my real life is going to bring up these controversial topics and if they do, it’s with a mutual agreement that we love and care about each enough to empathize, respect and stop before feelings get hurt. Guess what? Posts on the internet that make money off of people viewing and sharing them aren’t too concerned about people’s feelings getting hurt. There are the few gems but let’s face it, anything you read in a blog should be taken in with a grain of salt. And I’m a blogger. I can say that.

Frustrated with the ongoing, never-ending mommy wars, I took a new fun spin on it and created my latest post for Mumbling Mommy. Go check it out, 50 Shades of Mommy Wars. You won’t regret it.

A Birth Emergency: My C-section Story

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Princess Daddy and I Just Minutes Before My Surgery

Princess Daddy and I Just Minutes Before My Surgery

REBLOG: April is Cesarean Section Awareness Month. For more information on avoiding unnecessary c-sections, planning a vaginal birth after c-section (VBAC) or empowering women in the delivery room, please visit ICAN Online or find a local ICAN group in your area.

This post was originally written to be a guest post but I misunderstood the intentions of the blog host. She kindly offered to still use some of my pictures and quotes and while I greatly appreciate the offer and normally love my work to be spread around, I was worried that just one single quote from this piece could be taken the wrong way. Since a guest post wasn’t what she planned, I decided to still run this on my own blog. It has been sitting in my drafts for months but NOW is the time it needs to be shared. I want my story really told. The questions and titles belong to her so you may have seen them on her blog already. She get’s full credit for these ideas. Please go visit her site as she’s a very lovely momma. 

In the past I’ve discussed one of my birth stories. I went into extreme detail about the emotions I felt and the weeks and hours leading up to the emergency C-section of my identical twin daughters. What I didn’t touch on very much though was the actual C-section itself. When Valerie presented the idea of moms writing about this topic, I jumped on the opportunity because my life has been significantly impacted by this surgery that so many people take very lightly. Here are the questions I received from Val and my answers:

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Protect Your Child’s Future

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This post is Day 17 for National Blog Posting Month on Blogher. 

This isn’t exactly a topic full of sunshine and roses but it’s one you need to read about. Life insurance. And while I could go into extreme detail about life insurance for yourself and your partner, that’s not what today is about. We are talking life insurance for your children.

No one wants to think about kids dying. It is never expected, always tragic. It leaves us hugging our little ones as tight as possible, praying to every God we know of to make sure it never happens to us. But it still happens. Read the rest of this entry

#MommyConKC Spotlight: January Harshe from Birth Without Fear

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e12cb8b5885eeb8aa178be2f8ad62333This post is Day 16 for National Blog Posting Month on Blogher.

Before Mommy Con, I had no idea what Birth Without Fear was. I didn’t know who January Harshe was. I had no idea what to expect. So here I came in, blind and mostly unaware of what would happen over the next 45 minutes. I have three daughters. I’m not pregnant. I don’t really foresee having any more children… So you wouldn’t really think my take-away would be all that powerful.

But it was.

Oh. My. God. It was. Read the rest of this entry

Blogs I Read

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BlogThis post is Day 3 for National Blog Posting Month on Blogher.

I normally don’t blog on weekends, even less on Sundays but since I am participating in NaBloPoMo, I had to come up with something. I decided on a shout out to some of my favorite bloggers. If you don’t read these, maybe now is a good time to add them to your favorite reader! Read the rest of this entry

#MommyConKC Wrap Up (No Pun Intended)

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20131029-192349.jpgWhat is it? I heard about MommyCon through my local babywearing group. They were putting together a group to get discounted rates to the convention. Since it was located sort of local-ish (a 4 hour drive) but only minutes from my big brother and his wife, my mind started whirling and I knew I had to go! PLUS, I am going to be an Aunt for the first time soon so what better way to introduce my sister-in-law to a fun world of natural parenting (which she was already intrigued about.)

Anyway, what is MommyCon? Quoted directly from their website, MommyCon is a parenting convention of “forward thinking in parenting concepts.” Read the rest of this entry

30 Things Topic #6: The Hardest Thing I Have Ever Experienced

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The Honeymoon Doesn't Last Forever

The Honeymoon Doesn’t Last Forever

Over the next several months, I’ll be blogging about 30 preset topics based on this post. Check it out and take the challenge yourself. And come back often to see more blogs from me.

I have been through a lot of bad shit but all in all, I have grown and heal and overcome it all. A few things come to mind as far as the hardest experiences of my life.

The first was a car accident (hit stopped at a red light from behind by a car going 50 mph) that Princess Daddy and I were in just a month after we got married. My car was totaled. Neither of us had health insurance. We were poor newlyweds and thrown into a horrible situation that involved lawyers and courts and two years before we ever got a settlement. Read the rest of this entry

Healing Through Writing: My Birth Story Part 4, The Conclusion

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Finally, we come to the end of the story. I started these posts back in March but life of course has just gotten in the way. If you missed them, here’s My Birth Story Part 1, My Birth Story Part 2 and My Birth Story Part 3. My birth story didn’t happen on just one day after several hours of labor. It was a two month long traumatic experience. This is my journey and by writing it all out to share, I have managed to feel at peace. I look at my healthy one and a half year olds and feel immensely blessed that our story happened how it did and wasn’t any worse. 

RecoveryWith the realization of being of being 5 cm dilated, we asked the resident what was going to happen. It was getting late and Nana Bear was anxiously waiting for an update. Orange had already gone to bed and Nana Bear was exhausted and just hanging out on our couch. Princess Daddy really wanted to go home too. If they were just going to stop my labor, there was no reason for him to still be around. She looked at us both and advised him to not go anywhere. She said she had to check with my doctor but that she was pretty sure we would be proceeding with delivery.

All the sudden things moved quickly. My OB came back in just moments later after reviewing the images of the girls’ positions. Pink’s cord was actually a BIG deal. Purple could likely make it out safe but if Pink didn’t turn head down, or if she caught her cord with her feet down, we could have been dealing with a cord prolapse, a very scary emergency situation that could kill both her and me. The girls were estimated to be so small that 5 cm was plenty big enough to start feeling the urge to push. As I quickly became more and more uncomfortable, there was no longer any time to think and debate about what was going to happen. Read the rest of this entry

#ThrowbackThursday #Bedrest #Antepartum

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postpartumTwo years ago this fall, rather than preparing for the arrival of my twins by folding tiny baby clothes, painting nursery walls and spending every last chance I could with Orange during her last moments as an only child, I sat in a hospital bed praying that every twinge wasn’t another contraction and that my babies would stay in much, much longer.

It barely took a few hours for me to become stir crazy. Less than a week into my jail time sentence hospital stay, I had to start getting creative and one early Sunday morning I typed up this gem and shared it as a note on my Facebook page. My friends all got a good giggle out of it so I thought I’d pull this one out of the archives to share with you today.

Enjoy 🙂

A – Antepartum

B- Boring

C- Cervical Length Read the rest of this entry